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Handling bad blood between players?

Started by mAcular Chaotic, August 14, 2017, 12:23:04 AM

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mAcular Chaotic

#45
August 23, 2017, 02:08:46 AM
Quote from: Anon Adderlan;985536So why is this even your problem? Did either of them come to you and demand you choose? Did you even *ask* your GF if you should kick the friend? You're just running a game, not managing a #Kindergarten.

They were both in the same game. Girlfriend didn't want to be around him anymore; he was fine with staying in the game and having her leave over it. So without a resolution, I had to decide how to handle it for the game and the relationship.

Ultimately the other issues sorted themselves out too.
Battle doesn\'t need a purpose; the battle is its own purpose. You don\'t ask why a plague spreads or a field burns. Don\'t ask why I fight.

Voros

#46
August 23, 2017, 04:28:00 AM
Quote from: Anon Adderlan;986094...And I continually encounter far more long term friendships than romantic engagements. The phrase "Bros before hoes" may be crass, but there is some truth to it, which is just as applicable when the genders are flipped.

Different strokes and all but I can tell you not too many bros are are hanging out in rest homes together.

cranebump

#47
August 23, 2017, 08:41:19 PM
Quote from: Anon Adderlan;986094I also prioritize \#Justice over \#Loyalty.



Indeed, if I couldn't ask how they'd like the situation resolved, or they wouldn't answer if I did, I'd wonder as well. Intimate relationships fall apart over exactly those kinds of communications issues. And I continually encounter far more long term friendships than romantic engagements. The phrase "Bros before hoes" may be crass, but there is some truth to it, which is just as applicable when the genders are flipped.

There's some truth to that, for sure. Hopefully, though, when one does settle down, your partner is also your best friend. You can love somebody, but you gotta like 'em too, y'know? That's the one thing I couldn't say in totality about previous relationships, or my first marriage. My wife gets the benefit of the doubt from me because of those things, plus the respect I have for her for more reasons than I can count. That said, if this is an early stage relationship, such things may not be as clear. I DO think that a real friend doesn't make an issue at the table, though. Hell, nobody should. It's discourteous. This is just a game. Save the bad manners for therpgsite.:-)
"When devils will the blackest sins put on, they do suggest at first with heavenly shows..."

Anon Adderlan

#48
August 23, 2017, 09:15:33 PM
Quote from: mAcular Chaotic;986102he was fine with staying in the game and having her leave over it.

that... actually sounds pretty horrible, and really makes me curious about what the disagreement was about. I mean I've voluntarily left groups when I found I was the source of stress despite knowing I had done nothing wrong.

Quote from: mAcular Chaotic;986102Ultimately the other issues sorted themselves out too.

That's great to hear.

Quote from: Voros;986113Different strokes and all but I can tell you not too many bros are are hanging out in rest homes together.

Have you been to a rest home recently? You might be stunned at the relationships which end up lasting, and the ones which don't.

I constantly am.

Quote from: cranebump;986274Hopefully, though, when one does settle down, your partner is also your best friend.

From the sounds of it one can only hope to find a partner like you have :)

Voros

#49
August 24, 2017, 11:20:26 PM
Quote from: Anon Adderlan;986286...


Have you been to a rest home recently? You might be stunned at the relationships which end up lasting, and the ones which don't.

I did work with elderly people for about a year a couple of years ago. Checking in and talking to those who were living by themselves.
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