Oh yeah I made a mistake. Stealth motes for solars and abyssals are essence times four so you have 8 motes there. Anima motes are essence times ten so that is 20 for you.
You can buy ox-body up to your essence. So if you buy it twice you get x3 wounds. Right now we look at wound 4 for you, but with your purchase you bump it up to 8. For spirit the trait to increase that is Iron Will.
Also I forgot this. You get a free trait called Scale 1. It allows a exalted to be a threat to a group of mortals. Enemies who are at scale one deal less damage and take more damage. Enemies higher than scale one take less damage from you and deal out more damage. Essence can increase scale at certain points. Only solars and abyssals get to reach scale three. Dragon blooded are stuck at scale one.