I know nothing about Lindsay Ellis. Never heard of her, or any of the surrounding kerfluffle, until the talk in this thread. And, to be honest, I skimmed the talk in this thread, so I probably missed half of that. So I knew half of almost nothing going in, but I watched the video of her apology not apology, all 101 minutes of it.
She's fairly listenable. She makes some good points. She's not a racist or a transphobe or a sexist or a bigot for any of the specific things she was called out for and lengthily listed, and that includes all of the items that she apologized for. But she's a complete hypocrite, and thoroughly un-selfaware.
She (correctly) points out it's ridiculous to take the worst possible interpretation of anything anyone ever says, or to call people bad names like "racist" based on those uncharitable misinterpretations. But then she calls everyone who disagrees with her "diet nazis", based on single tweets or other interactions. This isn't an aside, or humor, or cherry picking. She says it repeatedly, throughout the whole video. It's an essential part of she believes. BTW, it's a reference to the alt-right. Except she doesn't want to call them the alt-right, because apparently that suggests they have too much in the way of principles. And I'm pretty sure it's not really the alt-right anyway, because it's just an unsubstantiated accusation she's throwing at the core of the mob going after her.
And she thinks it's unquestionable and thus doesn't even question that she and her friends and their woke and progressive comrades are making the world a better place, and that this is so self-evident it doesn't need defending. But she is a bigot. And a sexist. And a racist. But that's because of her underlying ideology is all those things, not those tweets or videos in specific.
She seems superficially reasonable. She makes some solid points about cancel culture, about the effect and reaction to dogpiles and how they appear from inside, and about how people should be judged based on the bulk of the evidence on who they are instead of isolated incidents, especially without context, because they might be sarcastic or otherwise intended in a way very different from the most superficial of readings, and that this collectively creates a culture where people live in constant fear of being publicly pilloried, and this stifles creativity.
But she can only extend that courtesy, or apply that reasoning, to her friends and fellow travelers. They're the only ones who deserve to be treated this reasonably. Because those on the progressive wing who are against her are terrible people and do not deserve "grace" (presumably from her early Tennesseean catechisms), and those who on the other side, even fairly moderate and mainstream figures, are racists and fascists.
She's also incredibly self-absorbed, but that should be obvious to anyone who watches even a few seconds.