My current DM --who was also my main DM in college-- has this big, um, fascination with sex in RPGs.  In spite of the fact that a) we're all over 40, b) we've all been around the block a bit, and c) we avoid his overtures like the plague, he still keeps throwing sex into our campaign.

Considering that this outsized and vocally explicit interest in sex is present in his real life, I suppose it is only natural that it bubbles over into his campaign.  But at the same time, I can't help but think that there's a time and place for everything, and when I'm playing a pencil and paper RPG I'm not trying to think about sex all the time.  

Maybe that's not realistic to being a hero awash in testosterone and muscles (and/or other attributes), but a lack of sex is true to the sort of game I want to play.  From my perspective, getting into sex with an RPG session feels juvenile at best and voyeuristic at worst.  I've known people who left gaming groups when their S.O. started referencing their own sex lives in descriptions, and that doesn't even start in on the "let's rape somebody!" that an idiot once blurted out at a game table.

Romance is a bit of a different story, because that can be a useful plot device  without veering into sexual details.  I can find it more believable having a romance with an NPC and not feel too uncomfortable about the visual cues a DM would make, versus looking over and seeing "Jimmy the DM" asking me details about how I'm having sex with an NPC.

Romance, sex, marriage, children, etc. are all common in most of the campaigns I've ran over the years. Sex happens off stage, of course, although depending the situation there can be a die roll or two associated with it (e.g. getting info out of your partner or the like).

Quote from: Orpheo;633818No sex in my games. It makes a mess of the table and the dice and minis stick into all sorts of places.

Sex during the game isn't nearly as much of a problem as Monty Python quotes and discussions of this week's The Walking Dead.

JG

Which reduce the chance of sex to zero anyhow.

Quote from: David Johansen;633992Which reduce the chance of sex to zero anyhow.

Not with some players.

JG

Quote from: silva;633738So, the AW "sex moves" discussion here got me curious.

What do you think of sex in your games? How many times the characters or npcs had sex, and how it went out?

In our group that hapenned 3 or 4 times, if I remeber right. We never narrated the actual process, though. And curiously, it just hapenned in urban games of Vampire and Shadowrun. Never with Gurps fantasy or BRP/Runequest. About specific mechanics related to sex, like AW sex moves, we never used it (in fact we played AW some times and had great fun with it, but never used the sex moves). But we have extensively used habilities or mechanics that can lead to sex (persuasion, sex appeal, Vampires presence and domination, Shadowrun tailored pheromones, AW skinner moves, etc).

Sex, marriages, children and romantic relationships happen frequently in my games. As the PCs are usually human beings, roleplaying them properly should include the need for coupling, establishing relationships, or just having a fun romp. Anyway, we usually roleplay the seduction part, and let the rest happen off-screen once the clothes start getting in the way.

Of course it is going to vary according to the game: in my 7th Sea game, it happens all the time. In my CoC campaign (the other game I'm running) it happens less frequently (though it happens, as we are playing in the Orient Express and man, it's the perfect place )

Quote from: Imperator;634023Sex, marriages, children and romantic relationships happen frequently in my games. As the PCs are usually human beings, roleplaying them properly should include the need for coupling, establishing relationships, or just having a fun romp. Anyway, we usually roleplay the seduction part, and let the rest happen off-screen once the clothes start getting in the way.

Of course it is going to vary according to the game: in my 7th Sea game, it happens all the time. In my CoC campaign (the other game I'm running) it happens less frequently (though it happens, as we are playing in the Orient Express and man, it's the perfect place )

This is more or less how our group deals with it. Some characters are obsessed with serial shagging, others want love and romance, some are in long term relationships, and others are too obsessed with hunting KGB moles, or mastering necromancy, or revenging their slaughtered family to find time for true love or no-strings sexual encounters. Fade to black when the clothes come off for either romantic love or mindless humping.

Quote from: flyerfan1991;633935From my perspective, getting into sex with an RPG session feels juvenile at best and voyeuristic at worst.

I think avoiding sex in a roleplaying game is pretty juvenile. It's okay to roleplay serial murderers or GoT-like political schemers, but handling a seduction in-character is "icky?" For Christ's fucking sake.

And please, do any of you honestly think that we handle sex in-game like it was fucking Penthouse forum article?

Quote from: Black Vulmea;634077I think avoiding sex in a roleplaying game is pretty juvenile. It's okay to roleplay serial murderers or GoT-like political schemers, but handling a seduction in-character is "icky?" For Christ's fucking sake.

And please, do any of you honestly think that we handle sex in-game like it was fucking Penthouse forum article?

You've never played with my DM.  That IS how he does it.

"I never thought it would happen to me. This girl's Charisma score was through the roof. I mean she had double d20s, if you know what I mean..."

Quote from: Nexus;634172"I never thought it would happen to me. This girl's Charisma score was through the roof. I mean she had double d20s, if you know what I mean..."

"...but when she asked me about the length of my sword, I knew what she meant."

Quote from: flyerfan1991;634152You've never played with my DM.  That IS how he does it.

Yes, yes, water is wet, bad DM is bad.

That doesn't change the fact that actively avoiding sexual encounters between characters is pretty gawddamned bizarre to me.

Quote from: Black Vulmea;634205Yes, yes, water is wet, bad DM is bad.

That doesn't change the fact that actively avoiding sexual encounters between characters is pretty gawddamned bizarre to me.

Why should it be bizarre?  People don't mix work and sexual encounters, so why should they necessarily put it in their RPG?

Quote from: flyerfan1991;634259Why should it be bizarre?  People don't mix work and sexual encounters, so why should they necessarily put it in their RPG?

This was basically what I was going to say.

In highschool we had a hard enough time keeping Mike from relaying his latest real life sexual conquest in vivid detail.  ("...like bullets man!  Bullets!")  Games were escapist then as now.  I wouldn't want to share that stuff with most people in the real world, even though it is completely mature and absolutely obviously going on 'off screen'.

Quote from: flyerfan1991;634259Why should it be bizarre?

Do your roleplaying game experiences completely exclude anything that fundamentally resembles the human experience?

People fuck around, they fall in love, they hook up, they break up. The idea that this happening in a roleplaying game is "icky" and something to be avoided at all costs is much more embarrassing and childish than maturely dealing with it.

And if you don't think you and your group can handle relationships and sex maturely, what the fuck makes you think they can handle anything else maturely, either? I mean, Christ, this lends just as much weight to the whole 'gamers are social retards!' meme as your fucked-up DM does.

Quote from: flyerfan1991;634259People don't mix work and sexual encounters, so why should they necessarily put it in their RPG?

Playing a roleplaying game is like work?

Seriously, I have no idea what the fuck you're trying to say here.