Zak's an arsehole, no doubt, but there's arseholes and arseholes.
Zak stood up for me and put his pedantry to work defending me against spurious accusations, so I guess I owe him a little for that. I also think he did a fantastic amount of good work for the public image of TTRPGs and in making them 'cool' again, even if the apex of that has been elsewhere.
Many of the accusations against him have been bullshit in the past (transphobia etc), and I admired the way he stood up against accusations and nastiness directed at him or his friendship circle. I also appreciate, intimately, how such a siege mentality can twist your thinking.
But yeah, he's an argumentative arsehole.
I also know he's manipulative.
I thought we were friends, or at least cordial acquaintances, but despite defending me he blocked and dropped me in a cold minute for political expediency, even saying so directly to me, with all the guile and stealth of a dayglo brick.
I always strive to do the right thing, and usually have a strong sense of what that is, plant my feet and take an informed stand.
But what's the right thing to do when someone who may have been abused is being used to definitely destroy someone else's life?
I don't know.
I disapprove of sexual assault etc, obviously (d'uh), but I also disapprove of trial by social media and being completely unpersoned on the basis of a Facebook post.
Tricky.