This rpg.net thread made me think about this. C.W.Richeson writes that he was kicked out by way of a form letter email - apparently that's the group's policy, to avoid hurt feelings. Of course, it wouldn't avoid hurt feelings, since surprise and incomprehension make anyone feel bad, but it would avoid dramatic arguments and the hurt feelings of the one doing the kicking, which is probably the aim of it.
Anyway, who here has been kicked out a game group, how did it happen and why?
Thinking back, I've never really been officially kicked out of a group. There have been plenty of groups where we obviously didn't get along, so I didn't go back. There have been a few game group implosions, but no-one was
kicked out of the group, it just ceased to exist as a group.
The summer holiday after my first year of uni my girlfriend (who I'd been with since 16) gamed with us and then hooked up with one of the gamers, my best friend at the time; his twin brother was GMing. I didn't try to go to the game sessions after that, I didn't imagine I'd be welcome, and didn't really fancy seeing them cuddling at the game table. But I suppose that's not really being kicked out, that's just
Days of Our Gaming Lives The closest to being actually kicked out was my first ever game group, the two guys who introduced me to gaming when I was 12. But that wasn't "we don't want to game with you anymore" but "we're not your friends anymore." Hey, we were 13, what can I say. That could have been from my behaviour in the game group, but we also sat next to each-other in class, had lunch together, went to movies together and so on, so it's hard to say, could have been anything - including that we were just 13 and therefore a bit stupid.
Aside from those incidents, as I said there's been no actual booting out for me. Nor have I ever kicked someone out of the group - usually we have a purely social meeting first to see how we get along, occasionally after that there's no game invite, and sometimes there's been a single session tryout, so to speak, after which the person wasn't asked back.
Certainly people have
left groups I've been in, but actually kicking people out is in my experience rare.
How about you lot?