I prefer sausagefests for home campaigns.
I've not been lucky with mixed groups in home campaigns, far too much relationship drama spills over into the game. Which is a shame because a couple times the girlfriends/wives were better gamers than their husbands/boyfriends. I don't need that stress during my fun time.
For me, mixed groups have worked far better for LARPS and certainly for convention events. Perhaps being in a public environment / gaming with strangers makes people less likely to dump their drama on the table.
I hate to say it to you, but this is the entire reason I started a private gaming club. It sounds like a dickish thing, but if I'm going to host any kind of game at my house I want people to understand that causing drama will get them ejected- by the police, if need be. All of my gamers have invested into this group, they've financially supported it, and there's a degree of loyalty and support. Because of this, the biggest 'argument' I've ever seen between them was more laughing and picking at each other than a real 'drama' situation.
We do try to do one game at the FLGS once a month with other people, just to see what's out there and learn the meta and find new guests to invite over. Every now and then, we do find a loon or a creeper, and we just make a mental note of it. One of my preferred tactics is to introduce myself to new players, shake hands and ask for names- and I'll write down those names in my notebook, and if they're scummy/weird/obnoxious? I'll make a note of it so I can avoid them later.
Right now, ours is entirely focused on WH40k, but a couple of the guys have played some D&D to break the pace and we're very likely to start some Dark Heresy. Not sure what sort of room that is in the local game community, as everyone in the area seems to have a hard-on the size of a polearm for Pathfinder.