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Building an emotionally safe environment

Started by droog, September 20, 2007, 06:50:58 PM

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Dr Rotwang!

#15
September 20, 2007, 09:30:07 PM
I create my own emotionally-safe environment wherever I go, whatever I do.

It's a little thing I call 'solipsism', and you should thank me for it.
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Spike

#16
September 21, 2007, 01:15:16 AM
Quote from: droogSpike - that's a really interesting perspective, Spike. I fully respect your right to have it. But you do see, don't you, that such things as that dreadful emoticon you mentioned are offensive to people--offensive enough to make them physically ill. Isn't it a reasonable position to give up small things like obscene smileys so that the more effeminate among us can be safe?


Ah, but see, if you make it emotionally safe for the effeminate, you have to make it emotionally safe for the macho lunkheads who find effeminate people... scary.

Where, oh where, does the madness end?

It doesn't.

Personally?  Anyone that needs such mollycoddling is offensive to me, and being told that not only do I have to tolerate such persons, but that I have to do it with a modicum of grace and dignity (that is to say, without tearing into them verbally any damn time I please) is offensive.

Which puts us, suddenly!, on the horns of a dilemma.  What is 'protective' of one person is now offensive to another.  Why is their value suddenly higher than mine?
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#17
September 21, 2007, 01:23:05 AM
Quote from: droogpeople of colour


That's people of color, kangaroo boy.
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droog

#18
September 21, 2007, 01:23:39 AM
I'm disappointed in you, Spike. We have to support people's need not to be anywhere near nasty things.

And Pierce, such levity has its place, but I'm talking about serious business here.
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#19
September 21, 2007, 06:51:44 AM
Quote from: droogIt is with some distress that I have noticed a tendency towards coarseness of expression among the posters of this site; as well as a neglect of others' feelings. I would like to discuss ways and means of making this site a more comfortable place for people such as women, people of colour, sexual deviants and the disabled.
Yeah, the current course of things is in this regard even more retarded than a Nigerian furry bitch.

Quote from: Pierce InverarityThat's people of color, kangaroo boy.
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September 21, 2007, 09:01:13 AM
If I wanted an emotionally safe, nanny-state of a forum then I wouldn't be posting here.

Fuck the armchair psychology! Post like you've got a spine!
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September 21, 2007, 09:36:17 AM
Sonnuva....

wrong thread.
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#22
September 21, 2007, 09:56:11 AM
Quote from: droogCould you explain what it is about making others feel comfortable and safe that doesn't appeal to you?

I'm not responsible for you or your feelings. I literally cannot control them, thus asking me to shepard them is unfair.

Moreover, I didn't notice anything in the TOS, etc., that mentioned this was a site for children. We're all expected, as far as I can see, to be adults. That means being responsible for your own behavior and accepting that others, too, are responsible for theirs.

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September 21, 2007, 10:30:36 AM
Quote from: SeanchaiMoreover, I didn't notice anything in the TOS, etc., that mentioned this was a site for children. We're all expected, as far as I can see, to be adults. That means being responsible for your own behavior and accepting that others, too, are responsible for theirs.

But being adult does not mean that we have to welcome or tolerate anything that anyone else claiming to be an adult wants to do.
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flyingmice

#24
September 21, 2007, 10:40:38 AM
Why are you all treating this seriously? THIS IS DROOG WE ARE TALKING ABOUT! Droog uses this site as his ironying board. He's just having a bit of his usual mocking fun. Serious Paul belatedly realized it, and a couple others have been playing along since the beginning, but the rest of you seem to be taking Droog at face value. I NEVER take Droog at face value. The more he seems to be talking straight up, the more convinced I am that there's an elaborate joke underneath it all.

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Seanchai

#25
September 21, 2007, 10:43:40 AM
Quote from: John MorrowBut being adult does not mean that we have to welcome or tolerate anything that anyone else claiming to be an adult wants to do.

Anything? No. You don't get to murder, hurt children, etc..

Of course, we're talking about a discussion board. More specifically, protecting a few people from being offended by an emoticon. Personally, I don't feel the need to post those sorts of things, but c'mon...

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#26
September 21, 2007, 12:15:31 PM
Quote from: droogIt is with some distress that I have noticed a tendency towards coarseness of expression among the posters of this site; as well as a neglect of others' feelings. I would like to discuss ways and means of making this site a more comfortable place for people such as women, people of colour, sexual deviants and the disabled.

Let me emphasise the part I'm having a problem with:

Quote"The forums should be more Politically Correct."
Quote"sexual deviants"

Feel the hypocrisy?
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#27
September 21, 2007, 12:25:57 PM
Quote from: flyingmiceDroog uses this site as his ironying board. He's just having a bit of his usual mocking fun.

Fucking classic!

And fuck you, droog!  Shove your "emotionally safe environment" up your ass!
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John Morrow

#28
September 21, 2007, 01:26:38 PM
Quote from: SeanchaiOf course, we're talking about a discussion board. More specifically, protecting a few people from being offended by an emoticon. Personally, I don't feel the need to post those sorts of things, but c'mon...

No, I'm not trying to protect a few people from being offended by an emoticon.  I'm trying to keep this message board from looking (any more) like RPGPundits home for lawncrappers, mouth breathers, and people who don't have the good sense or good taste not to use obscene emoticons on a public message board.  As I said elsewhere, it's kinda hypocritical to be complaining about the lawncrappers in this hobby when you entertain guests squatting in your front lawn, pants around their ankles, with pile of crap under them.

But, hey, the straw man version is more fun, right?
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September 21, 2007, 02:19:41 PM
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