I find it interesting to consider how defeat was handled depending upon the people and time.
* Scots were forbidden to wear tartans unless they served in the British military and they served honorably.
* Sikhs and Gurkha were also encouraged to join the British military (and the Gurkha only barely lost and never fulfilled treaty obligations due to that loss) and served honorably.
* Zulu were defeated at the battle of Ulundi and were basically put onto reservations like the Native Americans. Outside of the tribal homeland they were second class citizens in South Africa for decades.
* Afghans were defeated in the second Afghan war but never accepted the defeat and forty years later the British left and they had their county back.
* Indian kingdoms were defeated bit by bit and then all at once after the mutiny. Then they appeared someone passive until Ghandi's peaceful resistance.